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August Thoroughly Modern Manners

Ask Mrs. Abramovitz

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Dear Readers,

Isn’t someone you know always dieting?  Intermittent fasting, Keto, Paleo and the controversial and very popular drugs in the class of semaglutides (Wegovy, Ozempic, Rybelsus) seem to be among the current trends. If used correctly, they can result in significant weight loss.

So, what do you say when speaking to a friend who has lost a significant amount of weight? Two things – it’s important to be sensitive and supportive.  Don’t assume the weight loss is attributed to some health crisis; assume positive intent.  If someone wants you to know about their private health journey, they will let you in on it, otherwise express your admiration for their progress and hard work, acknowledging their accomplishment.  Everyone who has ever tried to lose weight knows how hard it is, and if you’re using one of the new drugs, how expensive it is.

Try saying something like, “I’ve noticed your incredible transformation, and I wanted to let you know how impressed I am with your dedication and progress.  Your hard work really shows, and I’m so happy for you!”

Lastly, approach the topic with empathy and avoid making assumptions or negative comments about their previous weight.  Don’t remind them of how far they’ve come; it’s the worst compliment.

We’re all guilty of getting this wrong sometimes, but try the following:

Leave out the word “weight” and instead say something like, “You look amazing!” This allows the person to brag a bit, or not.

Save these comments for people you know well.  It isn’t appropriate to comment on another person’s looks if you are a co-worker or a semi-stranger.

Here’s to slimming down and being healthy!

Big Love,

Mrs. Abramovitz




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