The Elevated Edit – June 2026
Dear Reader,
Last month we visited about graduation gifts, and I finished my column with “Oh, and I still believe the gift should remain unworn, unopened or unused until the thank you is sent!” And I stand by my sentiment.
But I heard from a few of you this month asking what to do if the gift wasn’t acknowledged. I am typically emphatic that you do not check in; the joy is in the giving, after all. That said, it seems the current best practice may be shifting. Let’s say this—the timing matters, how you ask matters and the relationship context counts. So, in most cases go ahead and check in, most people, when nudged, will respond warmly.
If you receive a gift in the mail, it’s polite to acknowledge the receipt in a timely fashion with today’s porch pirates and unreliable delivery services.
But, let’s talk about the nuanced situations when not to expect a thank you note and not to check in about the given gift.
When someone is sick. Sometimes there isn’t enough energy to express gratitude even though it is deeply felt. Consider this: if you know someone who is sick, offer to help reach out and give thanks on his or her behalf. If you are the one who is sick, consider asking someone for help.
When someone has welcomed a new baby. Knowing how all-consuming infants are, I think the best gift you can give a new mom is the gift of not having to write a note.
When someone is grieving a loss. They get a pass.
Mrs. A also believes that gifts that are opened and acknowledged in front of the giver don’t need a second thank you.
You guys be easy on yourselves; we’re all doing the best we can!
Big Love,
Mrs. A
